Why You Can’t Lucid Dream Often


🌙 Written by Stefan Zugor, international lucid dreaming expert and teacher. Learn how to lucid dream in 7 days or less.

Are you wondering why you can’t lucid dream often?

You think you’re doing all the right things but it’s still not happening effortlessly.

I know how frustrating that could be to not know the reason why you’re not able to do it.

And then you see other people who have lucid dreams every night and hear their stories about their amazing lucid dreaming experiences.

But the reason why it’s not happening for you is probably that you’re doing something wrong.

But what’s even more frustrating is if you don’t know what it could possibly be that you’re doing wrong.

So in this blog post, I’m gonna tell you exactly why you suck at lucid dreaming.

Let’s dive in!

Why You Can’t Lucid Dream Often

Other people are doing it, lucid dreaming whenever they want and having amazing experiences. So why can’t you? Chances are, you’re making it harder on yourself than it needs to be.

Why Can’t I Lucid Dream Often?

You can’t lucid dream and the reason you’re not good at it is because of certain things that you’re doing. You’re trying too many things, you’re not setting the foundations, and you’re not doing the basic non-negotiables.

The good news is, those things are very easy to fix and once you do them and once you know them, it’s going to seem easy to you.

I’m going to try and be real with you. I’m just going to explain everything and I’m gonna be frank.

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Why Is Lucid Dreaming Difficult

Lucid dreaming is easy but the reason why some people may find it tricky is that, like any skill, there is a learning curve when you first learn it.

Most people lose motivation before they ever get there. The second issue is that there is a great deal of misinformation out there.

People believe they understand how to do it. They’ll be posting in forums, groups, and Reddit based on their personal individual experience rather than what’s been researched.

Everyone can lucid dream but not everyone does because it is a habit that most of us do not practice consistently.

If you really want to do it, learn it, and make it a habit for yourself, you absolutely can. It may take a few weeks to establish, as with any new habit, but it becomes simpler with time.

At first, you’re rewiring your mind to perform something it’s never done before.

Keep in mind that it may require some trial and error, experience, and patience. Then, as you practice, it becomes simpler because you are training your mind to be able to do it.

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It’s like riding a bike. After you’ve learned how to do it, you can’t even fathom why you’ve ever struggled because it’s so effortless to you.

You need to develop the skills that will allow you to be able to do it.

That’s why not everyone knows how to lucid dream just like not everyone knows how to ride a bike.

Something plenty of people worry about is if they’re too old to learn how to lucid dream but age doesn’t matter.

Everyone is said to have had at least one lucid dream in their lives, even if it happened spontaneously.

If you’ve been finding it difficult to lucid dream, I have an in-depth video course in my lucid dreaming breakthrough system that shows exactly how to reliably lucid dream.

How To Lucid Dream

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Lucid dreams, like normal dreams, happen during REM sleep.

What is REM sleep?

REM sleep occurs between an hour and an hour and a half after falling asleep. It is a distinct stage of sleep marked by random fast eye movement.

People are able to have lucid dreams because they can wake up their consciousness and experience things while they are asleep. That’s how to have lucid dreams.

Normally, when you go to sleep, your brain closes down and you are unaware of what is going on.

You may open the portion of your mind responsible for becoming ‘conscious’ of oneself through training and practice.

Usually, you’re not aware that you are dreaming.

What makes a dream lucid is when you become aware that you are dreaming and over time, you can even learn how to control your dream like a film director directs a movie.

To lucid dream, you must have a strong motivation to perform reality checks later in the dream. You can learn how to do lucid dreaming reality checks in this blog post.

This increases the likelihood that you will realize you are dreaming and will activate your prospective memory.

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This is the capacity to recall things to do in the future, such as asking yourself whether you’re dreaming. After this, you need to choose a method and stick with it.

The lucid dreaming method I recommend is known as the MILD technique or the mnemonically induced lucid dream.

It’s a powerful technique based on expected memory triggers. It’s the most effective method according to studies and it’s also the most sustainable because it doesn’t require you to wake up weirdly early.

It’s also quite simple to learn. If you want a step-by-step tutorial, check out my blog post How To Lucid Dream Without Waking Up.

Is Lucid Dreaming Dangerous

There are a few minor hazards, but they are not as dangerous as diving with sharks, climbing a tree, or surfing.

Many people consider lucid dreaming to be a thrilling new way to explore their subconscious.

Others are wary about the safety of this form of dreaming, particularly people who are prone to having nightmares.

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Some study has indicated that lucid dreams can be safe if someone is prepared before they go to sleep. Dreamcatchers can also help certain people in dealing with this problem.

Generally speaking, it’s certainly not dangerous. It could be scary but not risky at all.

The ‘risk,’ so to speak, is a little risk that you’ll love it too much, among other things. This is not a problem for most people though. I certainly have no problem enjoying it.

As with other dreams, they’re more likely to crop up during those moments when you’re very worried.

I’m sure almost all of you have experienced nightmares.  Also, when you watch scary movies, these things have an effect on your mind, and it’s no different when you’re sleeping.

If you’ve encountered trauma of any type, you may also experience lucid nightmares; those suffering from PTSD frequently have nightmares that contain manifested memories of horrific events.

Why You Can’t Lucid Dream

We understand how it’s frustrating to not know why you can’t lucid dream so here are the 3 reasons why:

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1: You’re Trying Too Many Techniques

So firstly, you’re probably trying to do a million different techniques. You’re trying to do reality checks a hundred times a day, meditate an hour a day, read about lucid dreaming, and so on.

All this while doing the normal stuff you have to do in your life.

If you try to do a million things at once, it’s just not going to work. You’re going to get burned out and probably discouraged.

So if you can’t lucid dream, this is probably why happened.

Honestly, you should just slow down and relax a bit. Reduce the pressure and just try to take tone down your expectations.

You don’t need to do it tonight. You don’t need to lucid dream within a week or even a month.

Just relax and take the pressure off yourself.

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2: Your Foundations Are Wrong

The next reason why you can’t manifest is that your foundations are probably wrong.

Do you know the basic things that you should be doing? Chances are you’re not doing them.

Maybe this is a kick up the backside for you to try and remind yourself that you should be doing them.

For example, sleeping eight hours at night, going to bed at the same time, and waking up at the same time.

This might sound boring to you. I feel like I’m also boring myself by saying this, but this is how you do it.

It’s not just for lucid dreaming but this is how you get more energy to do the things you need to do.

These things had the biggest impact on me, and my energy.

I wake up at 6:30 in the morning and go to bed at about 9:30.

That simply is the trick. You need to have enough sleep at the right time. Do that and also meditate thing in the morning.

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3: You’re Not Doing These Non-Negotiables

That’s one thing, and then the next thing is what I call the foundations or the non-negotiable stuff.

Every day, think of your body like a machine. These are the stuff you need to do to keep the machine running.

After waking up, within the first half an hour, you need to be moving physically.

So move, jump up and down, do push-ups, do squats, go outside and let the sunlight in, breathe in the fresh air, and so on.

Most people don’t do that. It takes them hours to get going and even then they don’t move much.

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They get into their cars and then they sit in their offices the whole day.

You need to be moving your physical body a lot first thing in the morning. If you do that, I promise you everything else will seem easier.

In the evening, you need to be doing the opposite. You need to be not moving and you need to be reducing the amount of light that comes into your body and into your eyes.

Cut down on your screen time. Ideally, turn your screens off. Turn your internet off and don’t look at those in the last two or three hours before bed.

The same goes for eating. You should be eating much less during the evening. In fact, the earlier you have your last meal, the better your sleep will be.

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Can Lucid Dreams Cause Sleep Paralysis

Lucid dreams do not directly cause sleep paralysis but it can happen when your mind wakes up while you’re in REM or rapid eye movement sleep and your body hasn’t caught up yet or is still paralyzed.

Everybody experiences sleep paralysis every night unless you have a sleep disorder that causes you to sleepwalk.

It’s our body’s way of keeping us safe because otherwise, we’d be strolling about in the dark while we’re asleep or literally running when a ghost is chasing us in our dream.

How To Stop Lucid Nightmares

The first step to stopping lucid nightmares is to relax and remember that you’re in control. Consider yourself the film director of your dreams.

If none of that works, there’s always the tried-and-true method of yelling at yourself to wake up in your dream. If you’re conscious, it could just work.

I also have this 3-step guide on how to avoid having lucid nightmares.

How To Lucid Dream In 3 Minutes

Why do it for 3 minutes when you can do it in 9.7 seconds using the rocket method? Think of lucid dreaming like a rocket. The rocket is the method and techniques you use, while the fuel is your mindset. When you combine these two, you will be able to lucid dream fast.

You can read more about the rocket method in this post about how to lucid dream in 9.7 seconds.

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Why You Can’t Lucid Dream Often

So, why can’t you lucid dream often?

It’s because you’re trying too many techniques and you’re not focusing on setting your foundations including the non-negotiables.

These are just the absolute basic. These are the foundations most people are not doing.

They ask me for help but it all just boils down to they are not doing these things.

I don’t know why because I talk about them a lot and if you’ve followed me for a while you’ll know that.

These are really important. So that’s probably the reason why you suck at lucid dreaming, or at least why you’re finding it difficult.

Now, not that not a bad thing. Just be aware of that and always remember that if you’re not doing those foundations, you’re wasting your time.

You’re trying to do various techniques or, even worse, trying to use a lucid dreaming supplement of some kind or binaural beats.

It could help but that’s not the key. You need to be doing the basic things correctly first and then do all that other stuff, the fun stuff.

If you’ve done all those basic foundations and you’re ready to add the fun stuff, here are some lucid dreaming audio tracks. They’re encoded more strongly with frequencies, golden ratio, and positive energies which would help you lucid dream easily.

Now you’ve learned the reasons why you can’t lucid dream often. Which of the reasons do you think is the reason why you’re struggling with lucid dreaming?

Let me know in the comments!